Dirty Talking & Sexting Tips
Many things that we consider common today were once considered to be taboo. Believe it or not, dirty talk falls under that category. People in relationships have been taking things to a dirty place for years and they do so in order to keep things spicy. For some, especially in the introvert, it might not be as easy as it sounds. Knowing what to say and how to say it isn’t easy for everyone, but it can be taught. While relationships can improve due to talking dirty, so can cam show experiences.
We’ll cover everything you need to know about dirty talk in general as well as the positive impact it can have on cam show experiences. Whether you’re into sexting, traditional sexting, or even completely inexperienced with all this, you need to read this. Doing so may help improve just about every sexual experience that you have.
Everything You Need To Know About Talking Dirty
So, before we dive into everything you need to know about dirty talk, let’s properly define what we’re talking about here. According to Wikipedia, dirty talk can be defined as, “Erotic talk, also known as love talk, dirty talk, sexy talk, gross talk, talking dirty, or talking gross is the practice of using explicit word imagery to heighten sexual excitement before and during physical sexual activity.”
So, what we’re referring to is communication with intention to sexually excite or enhance things. Many believe this needs to involve slang or derogatory language and that couldn’t be further from the truth. That said, let me get right into things and every aspect of talking dirty that you need to know.
Spicing Things Up
There are LOTS of ways to spice things up in the bedroom. Whether you’re on cam or in person, you’ve got lots of options. Talking dirty to one another can really help make things extra spicy. Some beginners or those inexperienced might be hesitant, nervous, or don’t know where to start. Well, this is what you should do and how. If you want to spice up your sexual experience with a partner in person or on cam, start by…
Expressing How You Feel
Describe exactly how you feel to your partner. It’s a quick, easy, and ultimately organic way to kick start dirty talk. This approach helps tremendously because it gives your partner a better idea of what you like and what turns you on. They’ll likely acknowledge what you’re saying and take action accordingly.
Tell ’em What You Want
If you’re confident enough to tell your partner what you want them to do, then by all means, please do! This doesn’t have to be a demand, but just a simple, “I want you to…” in a very low voice. Trust me, it’ll get things going in the right direction.
Be Blunt
You can always tell them exactly what you want them to do to you. For example, don’t be afraid to tell them to, “take control” or “harder, faster, don’t slow down.” Just go with what’s easy and whatever naturally comes out. There’s no hard rule book for spicing things up.
These types of statements, whether made subtle or direct, can really spice things up quite a bit.
Role Play
Talking dirty while performing some role play act can really take the experience to greater heights. This helps get further into character and makes the whole experience feel more real. Your imagination can run pretty wild here depending on the role that you’re playing, but I think you get the point.
For example, the horny stepmom and son role, the powerful boss and secretary, the school teacher and bad student, the list goes on and on. Dirty talk can really kick things into motion and help you and your partner get in the mood and fill roles to a greater degree.
JOI
For those unfamiliar with what JOI stands for, we’re referring to jerk off instructions. This is a relatively newish trend for cam girls and a lot of dirty talk takes place here within these types of videos and cam shows. Most models with camming experience are familiar with this as they get a lot of requests from fans for JOI shows. Incorporating dirty talk during these types of shows is a surefire way to boost earnings and show ratings.
How do models incorporate dirty talk into JOI shows and videos? Simple, they tell the consumer what to do and they do it in a very sensual manner. Sometimes models get a bit demanding at times, depending on the type of JOI show requested and the model personality overall. You can do the same if the request comes in calling for it.
Sexting
When you’re short on time or you just want to kickstart some sexy chatter, then sexting is the way to go. Models, couples, lovers, you name it, all use this method to connect for some dirty fun.
What’s nice about this is that you can message your fans and send them a sext message that’s hot enough to leave them intrigued wanting more. It’s a great way to message users for private show opportunities to see who’s truly interested and doing so without being so straightforward.
Sexting boviously isn’t just for cam models, it’s for sex partners too. Many people love it because they’re able to carry on an intimate, private conversation no matter the time of day or location. There are plenty of things to say too. In fact, you can say anything at all, letting your imagination run wild here.
Dirty Long Form Writing and Speaking
Okay, so this is a bit more of a commitment but it’s really a great way to intimately connect with one another. When we think about long form writing, we’re not referring to writing books or anything, instead just a paragraph or two, maybe more. This style of dirty talk typically takes more time and effort, but it’s more appreciated I think.
If you’re not sure how to kickstart things with this, you might want to do a search for some erotic stories. Think Literotica and erotic novels. I suggest reading some stories here and this should help get your juices flowing if you’re not sure where to start. Another thing you can do is check out some of the pre-recorded media that’s published within the profiles of many Camsoda models.
What To Do and What Not To Do
Last but not least, we’ll leave you with a simple do and do not list. This should help simplify things for you and leave you with a cheat sheet for dirty talk in the bedroom, on cam and on-the-go (sexting).
The DO’s
Compliment – Be sure to compliment your partner while talking dirty with them. Not only will this make them feel good, but it will also make them more likely to want to open up and be more vocal with you.
Use Names – Say my name and mean it. Using someone’s name during dirty talk is a real feel good thing and ego booster. Making your partner feel comfortable will pay off in spades for you.
Be Descriptive – Don’t be afraid to get descriptive when telling them what you want and how you want it or what you like about what they’re doing.
Keep An Open Mind – Whether you’re texting, camming, or you’re in person, be sure to keep an open mind. Remember, our levels of experience with this type of thing vary, so please keep that in mind and keep an open mind at all times.
Get Kinky – Don’t be afraid to spice things up by adding a little bit of a kinky element to your talking or texting. Now is the time to do it!
The NO’s
Derogatory – Don’t use derogatory words as they can completely kill the vibe if unwanted or too extreme. If they ask for it, that’s a different story, but that’s where you should draw a line.
Quiet – Don’t tell anyone to stop talking or to be quiet. If they’re vocal and intimate, then great, don’t kill the vibe by telling them to stop talking.
Demeaning – Do not be demeaning. Unless it’s asked for, do not do it because it’s a major buzz kill. Things will go badly very quickly if so.
Medical – Don’t sound like a doctor when talking dirty. There’s nothing hot about the words penis and vagina. You are not a doctor so don’t try and act like one and if you are one, keep those lame terms out of the bedroom.
Conclusion
When it comes to dirty talk and sexting, there are not many hard set rules. Things are fluid and it’s all about being in the moment. Just please keep an open mind and consider upping your dirty talk game and skills if you really want to have better sexual experiences overall. Trust me, it’s worth the effort!
